Feeling Crap About Yourself? Don’t!

Disclaimer: I am in no way trying to bash anyone mentioned in this blog. All of these women are beautiful and these are images that I have found on the internet that show how these women still have societal “flaws.”

Hello everyone! Today I’m back with an important topic that I think a LOT of us can relate to, and this is the topic of low self-esteem and not feeling “good enough.” Be warned, it’s a long one! You may want to grab a coffee, tea or G&T (it’s 5 o’clock somewhere).

Since the pandemic began a year ago, we’ve been spending more time at home than ever before. Our social lives are non-existent and we’re no longer doing the activities that make us feel good, such as going to the gym (I can’t relate) or going out to brunch with the girls (I can relate). 

Due to this, our self-esteem is probably the lowest it’s ever been as we’ve said goodbye to makeup and hello to pyjamas all day every day, because what is the point? For some of us, the eyelashes and acrylics that used to make us feel good are gone, leaving us feeling totally vulnerable.

Vulnerability is a scary feeling and in my opinion, is worsened by social media. Since being in lockdown, I’ve become a slave to my phone, constantly scrolling through Instagram, looking at images of people who are “perfect” and hating myself for not being like that.

Why don’t they have big pores like me?

Why do I have cellulite and they don’t?

The list is endless.

No matter how many DIY “glow ups” I’ve had or products I’ve bought, I’m always left feeling unsatisfied. It was only through relentless googling, that my eyes were opened to the world of “secret” transformations. I mean, you can tell who has had the obvious boob job or butt lift, but when it came to the unobvious – let’s just say my unchiseled jaw was on the ground.

I was amazed at the minor tweaks that even some of my girl crushes have had done and what they used to look like. Which made me realise… Instagram is deceptive and it’s time to stop letting it dominate my life and my insecurities. Now I’m not saying to delete the app forever but to just look at it through a different lens. Although these women are beautiful, they are still beautifully flawed like you and me.

This is why I have decided to search the web and see what these celebrities used to look like before surgery or without filters to remind you (and mostly me) that your flaws are NORMAL and not to hate yourself for them. So without further ado…


Skin Texture

Blackheads, big pores, acne, redness, the list goes on. Behind the airbrushing, celebrities share the same skin demons as us all.

Cellulite & Stretch Marks

Cellulite is the term for the formation of lumps and dimples in the skin, also referred to as “cottage cheese” or “orange peel.” It actually affects 80-90% of women, which means it’s more common than you think! I for one have cellulite now at an “average weight” and still had it when I was underweight.

I first started to experience stretch marks at around 12 years old. My “friends” at the time would laugh at me and call me fat when actually, it was the result of rapid growth aka puberty. Stretch marks can also appear through losing/gaining weight quickly and will commonly appear after pregnancy.

It’s estimated that around 50-90% of women have stretch marks of some type, even famous people, so it really is nothing to be ashamed of.

It’s a part of life!

“Glow Ups”

There’s no better feeling than taking care of yourself. Whether it’s emotionally or physically, we all glow up in different ways and it feels great. However, when it comes to famous people, their glow ups are a LOT different and will sometimes leave us feeling unsatisfied that our glow ups haven’t turned out the same way. But why?

So, there’s a woman on YouTube called Lorry Hill and I have been binge-watching her videos all about plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. She’s really fab because she’s a plastic surgery positive channel, who simply “lifts the veil” on these procedures by showing that the beauty we desire is attainable.

Now I’m not promoting surgery and whether you do want to alter your face is up to you, but it is interesting to see the subtle and often unnoticeable procedures behind a celebrity’s glow up.

Take Kylie Jenner, for example.

By just looking at her, I’d guess that she may have altered her nose and had lip fillers. But in Lorry’s video, she highlights the fact that, although Kylie has denied having plastic surgery, these are the procedures she believes Kylie has possibly had done:

  • Lateral brow lift with cheek raising
  • Blepharoplasty & lower blepharoplasty
  • Chin shaved upwards
  • Jawline liposuction, filler & botox
  • Buccal fat removal
  • Ears pinned back
  • A potential nose job
  • Cheek & Chin filler
  • Lip filler

Another popular celebrity that Lorry has created a video on, is Bella Hadid.

If I hadn’t have seen pictures of her when she was younger, I would’ve presumed she was just naturally blessed. However, again, Bella denies rumours about having any plastic surgery done. So these are the procedures that Lorry believes she could’ve had done:

  • Nose job
  • Upper blepharoplasty
  • Lateral brow lift
  • Buccal fat removal
  • Mid-face lift
  • Jaw reduction
  • Lip filler

It’s crazy to think that the women that we admire on social media could have the same flaws as us, or at least did have before they altered their appearance. With the millions of filters available and Facetune skills that are sometimes undetectable, especially when we’re not feeling our best, it’s so easy to get caught up believing in a “perfection” that just doesn’t exist.

If there’s one thing that you can take away from this blog and I really hope that you do, it’s that you change the way that you look at social media. Yes, Kylie Jenner’s latest Instagram picture looks like she was hand-carved by the Gods; but remember that she also has textured skin, cellulite and has probably surgically enhanced her appearance.

Just because you can’t see these flaws on your screen, doesn’t mean that they don’t exist and it doesn’t mean that you’re not just as beautiful because you have these flaws. We’re all beautifully flawed and even more vulnerable during these difficult times, so please don’t let this desire to be “perfect” take over.

2 thoughts on “Feeling Crap About Yourself? Don’t!

    A really good read with lots of information and food for thought about the trials and tribulations that todays society have to face. You have highlighted the pressures that so many both female and lets not forget the males, have to face to feel they they need this and that done in order to feel ‘happy’ about themselves and to give them a sense of acceptance.
    To much money is not a good thing as the more you have the more surgery you can have and keep topping it up.
    I do find myself flicking through how people have changed over the years and many look horrendous. Surgery has gone wrong and often irreversible or even cause death.
    Nothing has really changed over the decades since I was born in the 1950s. These feelings were always there. I had many of these ‘insecurities’ to about my features and development whichwere brought on by my so called friends but I feel myself lucky to be born then. We didn’t have all the technolgy that there is around today. We got our first television when I was about 8. Plastic surgery was not around then so no real pressure from the media.
    No mobile phones or ipads/tablets to compare my looks to and no cyber bullying.
    It took a few years to feel better about myself because as time went by new things happened in my life which were more important.
    So my real message is please be yourself, do things for yourself and not for others, try your best not to follow others and do something to feel good about yourself.

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